Lending a helping hand

How often you help strangers or how often you lend a helping hand ? well if you ask me I don't really help a lot of them.

Before I begin let me tell you a small story my elder brother told me last night -
Once upon a time their was a great saint . He was famous and respected for helping others . He owned a beautiful white horse . One day a thief came by and came to know about this saint and his beautiful horse . He planned to steal the horse . The thief dressed like a poor man and started behaving as if he was physically challenged , as the saint  passed  riding his horse he asked for help , saint without any hesitation came near to help him , suddenly the thief drew his sword hidden in his rags , the saint remained calm , thief jumped on the horse and said "I am taking your horse fool" . As the thief was leaving saint said "take the horse but don't tell anyone that you fooled me by acting like someone in need ". The thief was puzzled and asked why so , Saint said "People will stop helping people in need" .

       Well the saint's concern was right , as the fraud people started looting people by acting like  needy person , people slowly stopped helping , so you got my point ?  People now a days don't help others not because they are cold hearted but because they don't trust strangers anymore , they are afraid that the person in need may turn into someone else .

       But every needy person is not a fraud , but on the same time he could be a fraud, so I'll say , stay cautious but not an ignorant and try to LEND A HELPING HAND whenever you can .


- Anuj

The Reason People Fight to Live

My Grandfather's last unsaid message

People always consider death as the most painful thing in this world . Somehow I believe people are right , it is painful but not for the person who dies but for the people whom they leave behind,people close to them , people who loved them . Pain is only felt by these people , the living people, and thats why people who are living are afraid of death , because most of them believe when the death of others can hurt and give so much pain , how painful their own death will be, but that's not the actual reason .

The only person I have ever seen dying was my Grandfather . He was a patient of paralysis , fought with it for almost 5 years . His left portion of body didn't worked . His left hand was stiffened ,he always tried to free it but he failed every time . He was happy with his prospering family but was not happy with himself , he never showed it , but somehow I can tell he started considering himself as a burden to the family , well that's what I thought at that time . Then that day came , I was 15 or so , he was seriously ill , most of the relatives were gathered  , he looked happy to see his loved ones around him . He was not able to speak or move but i guess he wanted to give his last blessings to all of us and he wanted to say that he was satisfied with his life and now want to leave his defected body and we should not cry . Suddenly he closed his eyes and exhaled the last bit of air inside him . It was as if he left all his pain behind to go to new  beautiful world . His stiffened hand became soft and free . We all were burst in tears but he was laying calmly .

I felt the pain , deep pain . But I wasn't able to forget the calm look on his face after he left us all . Slowly I realized that death is not painful , not for the one who dies , but for the one who are left behind . But that's not the complete story . My grandfather was always full of life , he always lived and enjoyed his life to the fullest , except for his last 5 years . He fought with his body to live because he knew the pain of loosing someone close to you and he didn't wanted to give that pain to us. He fought for us . He was not the burden , we were .

Now I know why people are afraid of death so much , its not because of the pain which people feels while dying , its the pain which that person will give to his loved ones after dying, the people for whom he can fight with the world if they try to hurt them , and now  he himself going to hurt these very people . That is the real pain of death , the pain which don't let people die , the reason people fight to live .


~Anuj

 

Love Relations - Part 2 Love or True Love

Love or True Love

            Relation is a bit complicated stuff . It starts with a crush , then comes attraction followed by infatuation and if things goes well then comes a relation. Note that , love hasn't arrived yet . Love , and by love i mean the real stuff , the true love , its something which don't comes in a day , a week , a month or even an year , and sometimes it even takes many years . Most of the time people confuses love with attraction or infatuation because in most cases people selects the most attractive partner , based on the outer beauty of that person . But people don't fall in love with the outer beauty of a person instead love comes when people get to know the inner beauty of their partner .

            And why it takes year ? Well the answer is simple , inner beauty is something which is unknown even to the person having it. Its not something which can be shown at will, its something which is felt by the people around you . Its a hidden trait , it can only be seen perfectly when you stop looking and judging  people with your eyes , instead let your heart and brain to do the stuff. But it takes time to see these hidden traits , and when you start seeing them you finally start falling in True love . 

          So, "The true love is not found in a day or so, its built over time" , and only True Love lasts forever.

-Anuj

Love Relations part 1

Love relations are of many types , the one I am going to discuss is Teenage Relations .
The teenagers are always in a hurry for everything , this is the time they want everything to be done quickly and reach their aims as fast as possible. They are THE BUSY PEOPLE , they just started understanding and enjoying the world and they want to know everything. But then comes a relation , a relation is something which demands time , attention , love , affection , loyalty , communication and many more things. For teenagers they don't have time and without time rest all are not possible. So in most of the cases , the teenage relations don't work for long.  For teenagers time runs fast because they are always busy with some stuff , so teenagers don't have enough time . When a teenage relation starts they give time to each other , and they enjoy the relation because its something new and the time they spend is worth spending. But as time passes by the "new" part is gone and what is left is just a relation , they do enjoy the relation but not that much which they used to enjoy in its early days and they decrease the time they used to spend on the relation. Finally the relation starts dying slowly and no one wonders why.
         So usually teenagers don't notice that time is the reason for their break-ups . But in most of the cases , it is.



IMPORTANT- These are just my views and not valid for all teenage relations .


- Anuj

Modern World Part 1-Connected or Disconnected

Connected or Disconnected

We are getting modernized day by day , we are getting upgraded , we are getting connected , my question is - Are we ?
            Before I begin , I'll like to ask , whether you have watched the Disney Pixar's " Wall E " movie, it shows the future world  , the modern people , heights of technology . It shows that real people are just sitting in their chairs they got a display in front of their faces and that is the life for them they didn't know anything about what's going around them , they are connected people but in actual they are the one who are disconnected from the real life.

          Now is it possible that this can happen in real life ? We'll say , "oh please that's just a movie" . But then I realized it's already happening . when I see people around me , for instance during metro travelling ,what I see is that everyone is busy with themselves , with their phones or other electronic gadgets , most of them got their ear phones plugged in , listening to music , busy with calls , texts , Facebook and if nothing else then games . No one wonders who is sitting next to them , no one talks to the person next to them , no one knows what's going around them . We say we are connected people,  but , are we ? When we'll think of it , we'll realize  that we are the ones who are getting disconnected with the real life . we know everything about people who are far away from us , how are they , what they are doing , "hey you know my friend in lko just got a new girlfriend ", but , we know nothing about the people next to us . We talk more with the people away from us then the people close to us . Yes we do .
Even Albert Einstein has said -

" I fear the day when the technology overlaps with our humanity. The world will only have generation of idiots. "

  

        Now you can understand we are same as the people shown in Wall e , I guess that's why the movie got Oscar . So I have made my point , and I admit I am also one of the connected-disconnected people. What I want to say is that , spend more time with the real world then virtual world , stay Connected , but , don't get disconnected with real life . Don't be an Idiot. 

By- Anuj

Modern World Part 2 - Modern Kids- available soon.