The Reason People Fight to Live

My Grandfather's last unsaid message

People always consider death as the most painful thing in this world . Somehow I believe people are right , it is painful but not for the person who dies but for the people whom they leave behind,people close to them , people who loved them . Pain is only felt by these people , the living people, and thats why people who are living are afraid of death , because most of them believe when the death of others can hurt and give so much pain , how painful their own death will be, but that's not the actual reason .

The only person I have ever seen dying was my Grandfather . He was a patient of paralysis , fought with it for almost 5 years . His left portion of body didn't worked . His left hand was stiffened ,he always tried to free it but he failed every time . He was happy with his prospering family but was not happy with himself , he never showed it , but somehow I can tell he started considering himself as a burden to the family , well that's what I thought at that time . Then that day came , I was 15 or so , he was seriously ill , most of the relatives were gathered  , he looked happy to see his loved ones around him . He was not able to speak or move but i guess he wanted to give his last blessings to all of us and he wanted to say that he was satisfied with his life and now want to leave his defected body and we should not cry . Suddenly he closed his eyes and exhaled the last bit of air inside him . It was as if he left all his pain behind to go to new  beautiful world . His stiffened hand became soft and free . We all were burst in tears but he was laying calmly .

I felt the pain , deep pain . But I wasn't able to forget the calm look on his face after he left us all . Slowly I realized that death is not painful , not for the one who dies , but for the one who are left behind . But that's not the complete story . My grandfather was always full of life , he always lived and enjoyed his life to the fullest , except for his last 5 years . He fought with his body to live because he knew the pain of loosing someone close to you and he didn't wanted to give that pain to us. He fought for us . He was not the burden , we were .

Now I know why people are afraid of death so much , its not because of the pain which people feels while dying , its the pain which that person will give to his loved ones after dying, the people for whom he can fight with the world if they try to hurt them , and now  he himself going to hurt these very people . That is the real pain of death , the pain which don't let people die , the reason people fight to live .


~Anuj

 

Love Relations - Part 2 Love or True Love

Love or True Love

            Relation is a bit complicated stuff . It starts with a crush , then comes attraction followed by infatuation and if things goes well then comes a relation. Note that , love hasn't arrived yet . Love , and by love i mean the real stuff , the true love , its something which don't comes in a day , a week , a month or even an year , and sometimes it even takes many years . Most of the time people confuses love with attraction or infatuation because in most cases people selects the most attractive partner , based on the outer beauty of that person . But people don't fall in love with the outer beauty of a person instead love comes when people get to know the inner beauty of their partner .

            And why it takes year ? Well the answer is simple , inner beauty is something which is unknown even to the person having it. Its not something which can be shown at will, its something which is felt by the people around you . Its a hidden trait , it can only be seen perfectly when you stop looking and judging  people with your eyes , instead let your heart and brain to do the stuff. But it takes time to see these hidden traits , and when you start seeing them you finally start falling in True love . 

          So, "The true love is not found in a day or so, its built over time" , and only True Love lasts forever.

-Anuj

Love Relations part 1

Love relations are of many types , the one I am going to discuss is Teenage Relations .
The teenagers are always in a hurry for everything , this is the time they want everything to be done quickly and reach their aims as fast as possible. They are THE BUSY PEOPLE , they just started understanding and enjoying the world and they want to know everything. But then comes a relation , a relation is something which demands time , attention , love , affection , loyalty , communication and many more things. For teenagers they don't have time and without time rest all are not possible. So in most of the cases , the teenage relations don't work for long.  For teenagers time runs fast because they are always busy with some stuff , so teenagers don't have enough time . When a teenage relation starts they give time to each other , and they enjoy the relation because its something new and the time they spend is worth spending. But as time passes by the "new" part is gone and what is left is just a relation , they do enjoy the relation but not that much which they used to enjoy in its early days and they decrease the time they used to spend on the relation. Finally the relation starts dying slowly and no one wonders why.
         So usually teenagers don't notice that time is the reason for their break-ups . But in most of the cases , it is.



IMPORTANT- These are just my views and not valid for all teenage relations .


- Anuj

Modern World Part 1-Connected or Disconnected

Connected or Disconnected

We are getting modernized day by day , we are getting upgraded , we are getting connected , my question is - Are we ?
            Before I begin , I'll like to ask , whether you have watched the Disney Pixar's " Wall E " movie, it shows the future world  , the modern people , heights of technology . It shows that real people are just sitting in their chairs they got a display in front of their faces and that is the life for them they didn't know anything about what's going around them , they are connected people but in actual they are the one who are disconnected from the real life.

          Now is it possible that this can happen in real life ? We'll say , "oh please that's just a movie" . But then I realized it's already happening . when I see people around me , for instance during metro travelling ,what I see is that everyone is busy with themselves , with their phones or other electronic gadgets , most of them got their ear phones plugged in , listening to music , busy with calls , texts , Facebook and if nothing else then games . No one wonders who is sitting next to them , no one talks to the person next to them , no one knows what's going around them . We say we are connected people,  but , are we ? When we'll think of it , we'll realize  that we are the ones who are getting disconnected with the real life . we know everything about people who are far away from us , how are they , what they are doing , "hey you know my friend in lko just got a new girlfriend ", but , we know nothing about the people next to us . We talk more with the people away from us then the people close to us . Yes we do .
Even Albert Einstein has said -

" I fear the day when the technology overlaps with our humanity. The world will only have generation of idiots. "

  

        Now you can understand we are same as the people shown in Wall e , I guess that's why the movie got Oscar . So I have made my point , and I admit I am also one of the connected-disconnected people. What I want to say is that , spend more time with the real world then virtual world , stay Connected , but , don't get disconnected with real life . Don't be an Idiot. 

By- Anuj

Modern World Part 2 - Modern Kids- available soon.

GOD or HOPE

Who is GOD ? Is there a God ? If yes then where is God ?

         We all gets stuck to these questions when we think of God. 

Don't get excited I am not answering these questions , well honestly I don't have any answer for these questions .

         Now lets talk about HOPE , what is a hope ? Well Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen, that's what dictionary says.

          I say Hope is God 

Think of it for a moment.       

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          OK , now let me explain my point with a simple example- Pastries , I know you like pastries , suppose you have a set of different but similar looking pastries and you got to choose one of them , so you randomly pick one and Hope that it must be the tastiest of them all , (Do you got anything related to god in this example ?  well no for now) . Now lets take one more example- Suppose someone close to you met with an accident , you take them to a hospital and "Hope" that he will get well soon , Do you got anything related to god in this example , well yes the moment I said "Hope",there comes God. You are hoping to God , and God, is itself a hope that there is someone out there who got power to save your loved one.

        So whenever there comes Hope there comes God, even your Hope is as simple as a pastry choice . As far as people are hoping for something , they are knowingly or unknowingly believing in the existence of God . So that's the reason I said " Hope is God ".

One heart Dual feeling

One heart dual feelings

Have you ever realized this , that for most of the  things we do day to day we gets confused what we actually want to do.Your mind gets divided into two. Half of your heart says you want that thing and half of your heart denies. 

Firstly let me give you a simple example- when you walk across a pastry shop and you look at a delicious pastry, instantly a part of your mind says its yummy i want to have it,  but half of your mind says move on buddy i am not gonna pay that much for that pastry , and you passes by ,because the later half is more stronger than the first half. Thats a simple example ... 

     
         lets talk about some serious stuffs , like a relation , a relation is one of the most complicated things exist in this world, and most of the time you gets stuck your mind and heart gets divided . half of your heart says you like that person but at same time half of your heart says you don't . The later part generates reasons to prove why  you don't, it says may be that person is not trustworthy,may be that person will betray you,may be that person don't deserves you , and so on , but the first half got no reasons nothing to say nothing to make you believe , it just makes you realize that you want that person at some point , and , well , you are left confused . In that situation you choose to stay quite , cut yourself from that person, and you start piling up the little things you want to say and even if you talk you let your first part to talk and the most talking part of you,the later part stays quit at that time.

       At the end you leave everything on time, you tell, both of your parts, let time decide what you want , because you are not able to decide for yourself. This is the path most of us choose , even i will do the same , but when we'll think of it, we'll realize this path is for  losers . Let you decide what you want not the time , let you decide which of your two parts is stronger , let you decide whether you want that person or you want to move on . As in case of the simple example i gave you earlier , its an easy choice whether to listen the part which is saying that pastry is yummy , have it or listen to the later part which is giving you reasons not to have it , money,quality,taste,place , etc , in this situation the choice you make in few minutes either you leave it or have it , you don't stress yourself ,you are able to know which of the two parts is stronger.

       So in both situations your heart and mind gets divided , in one case you are able to resolve the situation easily and in one you gets stressed  and in the end leaves everything on time.So where is the difference, well the difference is that, you take one  as a simple situation while for other , well you takes it as a tough one, so tough that you are not able to arrive at a solution , a choice , you want to make. So what i believe is that , the day we'll start taking things as  simple , as the situation of pastry we can realize which of the two parts of our heart is stronger and we can come to a solution , a right choice, which we'll choose, not the time.


By - Anuj

   

Put the glass down

Read this story; Hope that makes a BIG change in YOU !!At The End Don't Forget To Share It If It Inspires You :)
The Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?"
'50gms!'..... '100gms!' .....'125gms' ...the students answered.
"I really don't know unless I weigh it," said the professor, "but, my question is:
What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?"
'Nothing' …..the students said.
'Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?' the professor asked.
'Your arm would begin to ache' said one of the student
"You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?"
"Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!"
….. Ventured another student & all the students laughed
"Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?" Asked the professor.
'No'…. Was the answer.
"Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?"
The students were puzzled.
"What should I do now to come out of pain?" asked professor again.
"Put the glass down!" said one of the students
"Exactly!" said the professor.
Life's problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.
Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.
It's important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to 'PUT THEM DOWN' at the end of every day before you go to sleep...
That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!
So, when you start your day today, Remember friend to ‘PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY! '




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